Sep 30, 2018

The Tea Girl of Hummingbird Lane

The Tea Girl of Hummingbird LaneThe Tea Girl of Hummingbird Lane by Lisa See
My rating: 4 of 5 stars

I read this for my bookclub and I loved it, but was disappointed in the ending.

1. Discuss the significance of the epigraph. The Book of Songs is the oldest extant collection of Chinese poetry, written between the 7th and 11th centuries B.C.; what kind of resonance does it have today?
I am not sure it has any, but then I really don't like poetry that much.

2. The Tea Girl of Hummingbird Lane begins with the Akha aphorism, “No coincidence, no story.” What are the major coincidences in the story? I think the only real coincidences in the story were Tina's running into Deh-ja, although it seems that Tina and Haley's lives had intersected numerous times and they could have possibly ran into each other in America, so I found it sort of unbelievable that the first time they meet was in the tea grove where Tina gave birth to Haley. Especially as they were both looking for each other.

Are they believable? for the most part yes.

How important are they in influencing your reaction to the novel as a whole? Everything seemed to happen for a reason and some of the things that seemed to be coincidences turned out to have a puppet master (Mr Huang) behind them.

3. Perhaps the most shocking moment in the novel comes with the birth of the twins and what happens to them. A-ma explains that “only animals, demons, and spirits give birth to litters. If a sow gives birth to one piglet, then both must be killed at once. If a dog gives birth to one puppy, then they too must be killed immediately.” The traditions surrounding twins are very harsh, to say the least, but were you able to understand what happens to them within the context of Akha culture?

No, it's bad enough that they ruthlessly killed special needs children but at least that made sense as they didn't have the resources to care for them. But to kill perfectly healthy children just because they were twins was beyond my ability to understand. Especially as the culture didn't have a problem with changing this "tradition" soon after Deh-ja's twins were murdered.

How does this moment change Li-yan’s view of Akha Law, and what are the consequences?
That she became more willing to break their taboos

Are there any aspects of the Akha culture that you admire?
There wasn't really anything I admired about their culture. I did admire Li-Yan "Tina" and her Mother for saving Haly's life despite their culture.

4. What is Li-yan’s first reaction when she sees her land?
That it is worthless.
Why does A-ma believe the tea garden is so important? Why does A-ma believe that the trees are sacred?
Because the Mother tree came from far away and has important medicinal qualities.

What is the significance of the mother tree?
Everything in this book seemed to revolve around Mother's, The Mother Tree and it's life saving properties brought Mr. Huang and his son Sean into Tina's life, and provided her family and village with a livelihood. Tina's feelings about the Mother tree also seemed to mirror her feelings about her own Mother to some extent and she grew to appreciate them both more. And the Mother tree provided a sanctuary for Tina to give birth to Haley and the life saving properties of the Mother Tree may have even kept Haley alive as an infant. It also provided a way for Haley to find her way home.

5. San-pa and Li-yan’s relationship ends tragically and causes them both great pain. Is what happens between them fate, or is it bad luck?
In all actuality I think it's a result of their poor choices especially San-pa's choice to use drugs. Being killed by the Tiger was probably the best end for him.

In your opinion, does their community’s negativity about their union shape the outcome of their marriage?
Yes, if he hadn't had to go away he and Tina could have married and Haley's birth would have been a blessing. Perhaps he would have chosen a different path with a child to think about.

Does his death change your feelings about him?
Yes, I think it showed he truly loved Tina and that if it hadn't been for the drugs they might have been happy together. He obviously still cared enough about her to make sure she was safe.

6. Can the experience Li-yan’s village has with selling Pu’er be thought of as a microcosm for globalization?
Yes
Why or why not? The village became more a part of the world outside through the wealth they gained from selling Pu'er and many of their traditions were lost due to outside influences.

Are all the changes to the village positive? No

Given all we hear about China being a global economic superpower, were you surprised that the novel starts in 1988? Not really

7. As a midwife, A-ma occupies a position of relative power on the mountain, although as “first among women” she still comes after every man. Can such a traditional role for women be truly empowering?
No

In the context of their society, what are the limits and expanse of A-ma’s power?
I think her real power came when she choose to step outside the limits of their society and choose to help Tina give birth in secret and then helped her save her daughters life.

8. This novel uses a number of devices to tell Haley’s story, including letters, a transcript of a therapy session, and homework assignments. It isn’t until the final chapter, however, that you hear Haley in her own pure voice and see the world entirely from her point of view. Did this style of storytelling enrich your experience of the narrative? Did it make you more curious about Haley?

Yes, to both questions.

9. In the chapter transcribing a group therapy session for Chinese-American adoptees that Haley attends, many of the patients have mixed feelings about their adoptive and birth parents. Were you surprised by their anger? Yes

Did reading this novel affect your feelings about transnational adoption?
Yes, it did sadly I think they should probably end or at least that the adoptive parents should look more like the children they are adopting.

10. The three most significant mother-daughter relationships in the novel are those between A-ma (So-Sa) and Li-yan, Constance and Haley, and Li-yan and Haley. The connection between Li-yan and Haley, although arguably the emotional center of the novel, exists despite the absence of a relationship: though the two women think a great deal about each other, they do not meet until the very end of the story. How does this relationship in absence compare to the real-life relationships between A-ma and Li-yan and Constance and Haley?

You can't really compare them. And since the book ends with Tina and Haley meeting we can't really know what sort of relationship they will have. Until they meet their relationship is built on their expectations of what the other will be like and questions

11. What are the formal and informal ways that Li-yan is educated?
Formally she learns outside ways in school and So-sa teaches her about being a midwife and medicine. Informally life teaches her several harsh lessons.

How are they different from how her family was educated? Her schooling sets her apart from those who have never left the village.

What role does Teacher Zhang play in Li-yan’s life and how does it change over the years? Teacher Zhang opens Tina's eyes to a chance at a better life and is able to open doors (trade school) for Tina even after she marries San-pa

How important in education in Haley’s life? Very important.


12. Li-yan is much older and more experienced when she meets Jin than she was when she fell in love with San-pa. How are the two men different?
I don't know that they are other than Jin doesn't use drugs and is successful.

What do you think Li-yan learns from her first marriage? To be more cautious

13. Almost everyone in the novel has a secret: Li-yan, A-ma, San-pa, Mr. Huang, Deh-ja, Ci-teh, Teacher Zhang, Mrs. Chang, and Jin. How do those secrets impact each character? How are those secrets revealed and what are the results, particularly for Li-yan and Ci-teh’s relationship?
Their secrets are revealed when Tina either finds out or they confess to her. Tina realizes that she and Ci-teh didn't really have the relationship that she thought they did.

The only person who doesn’t have a secret of major significance is Haley. What does that say about her?
That she has lived a privileged life.

14. When Li-yan returns to her village to confront Ci-teh, the ruma tells the women that Li-yan is still Akha even though she has a new home and lifestyle. How do questions of identity, especially as they relate to Li-yan’s status as an ethnic minority, play into the events of the novel? How does Li-yan’s identity shift? Do her nicknames, especially her American nickname, inform this shift?

When the book begins Tina is very traditional and doesn't envision any other life as the book progresses she begins to dream of the world outside her village and she slowly begins to dress and act more like a Westerner. By the end of the book she if more Tina than Li-yan

15. By the time Li-yan and Haley meet, each has been searching for the other for many years. However, Haley already has a family and an adoptive mother. Is there room for Haley to have two mothers? How do you think Li-yan and Haley will relate to each other—as mother and child, or will their roles be something slightly different?
I think their roles will be different Haley already has a Mother. I think Tina will probably mentor her about tea and pass the Mother tree and it's care to Haley. I think their relationship will be built around the Mother Tree and Sean

What do you suppose Haley and Li-yan will talk about first? Where she was born and why Tina gave her up.

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Building A Wall

 We decided to enclose the kitchen a bit more.  One of the big pluses in my opinion is I no longer have to paint the kitchen and Family Room the same color.

 So far the month of May Bo was hard a work building the wall and doing the wiring.



 I like still having pass throughs into the kitchen. I can see out the kitchen window and we get some light from it in the Family Room.


 I did this for my Mom so she could get an idea of how the kitchen would look.

 Bo moved the light switch for the laundry room into the laundry room.

 And the window got some special attention.

 It was a MESS for awhile but so worth it in the end.

 Mercier's Cabinet and Woodworking built my cabinets and they did an excellent job. And Kevin Wade was able to come out the same day they installed the cabinets to measure for my countertop. I got Whitewashed Cypress and choose to have finger pulls instead of hardware.

 I love having my refrigerator built in.

 And am really enjoying the new stainless steel appliances.


 I really like my Microwave. It's just the right height to make it easy for me to get things in and out. My Microwave is a Convection Oven too, so I haven't actually used my oven much, pretty much everything fits in the microwave.. Although I really like my oven the few times I have used it.

 And I LOVE this cabinet above the microwave. It makes getting my cookware out so much easier.

 In fact I love everything about my cabinets.

 I got a new can opener, that goes better with the new color scheme.

And my counter top. It's Volga Blue and I just love it, it has so much color in it, grays, blacks, silvers, bronze, blue, green even a hint of purple. Pictures don't do it justice, this is one granite you really need to see in person to appreciate. The  granite countertops were installed by W.E. Wade Tile Company they will be coming out to install LVP flooring in the Family Room soon. If you think it looks good now just wait till you see it with the backsplash. The tile and the granite really look awesome together. And I love the plug in's that are where the backsplash will be Kevin Wade suggested them and they are great. I was going to loose a plug in because of the microwave cabinet and thanks to Kevin I didn't I actually gained one. And you CAN NEVER HAVE TO MANY PLUG INS IN THE KITCHEN.
 

Sep 29, 2018

Laundry Room

 I used to refer to this as the Utility Room but with the makeover I have upgraded it to Laundry Room. The Color I choose for it is Glass Slippers they categorize it as a violet neutral.  This is how Valspar describes it.

  • Dusty Lilac (Lowe's: 1003-8A Glass Slippers / Ace: VR061C Twilight Bloom / Independent: V077-3 Twilight Bloom)
    • Healing and peace. Looking for a sanctuary for inner peace, holistic healing and spirituality. We draw from a mix of eastern and western influences to find our balance.

 The trim is going to be painted gray. And I will be putting shelf paper in the pantry.


And Bo finally put the light switch in the laundry room. It's so nice to have the light switch in the same room, it got aggravating having to open the door to turn on the light if I forgot to turn in it on before I went in there

OK, got the trim painted, shelf paper not up yet but I love the trim with the floor. I also picked up this stainless steel garbage can. ~Alasandra

Sep 26, 2018

Beren and LĂșthien by J.R.R. Tolkien

Beren and LĂșthienBeren and LĂșthien by J.R.R. Tolkien
My rating: 3 of 5 stars

Beautifully illustrated, I would have liked it better if Christopher Tolkien had settled on one version (the one that best fit in with LOTR) and stuck to telling it in a straightforward manner.

And I was very upset with the version that portrayed cats as evil. (Tevildo Prince of Cats)

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Sep 24, 2018

My Grandmother Asked Me to Tell You She's Sorry

My Grandmother Asked Me to Tell You She's SorryMy Grandmother Asked Me to Tell You She's Sorry by Fredrik Backman
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

Elsa's Grandmother filled her world with fairy tales based on the lives of the tenants of their apartment building. And when she dies she leaves Elsa with the mission of delivering letters to the tenants where she apologizes. Allowing Elsa to make friends and open hearts as only an almost eight year old can.

The only part I didn't like was when the wurse died, still really sad about that. Wurse's should be immortal.

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Sep 19, 2018

The Man Who Cast Two Shadows (Kathleen Mallory, #2)

The Man Who Cast Two Shadows (Kathleen Mallory, #2)The Man Who Cast Two Shadows by Carol O'Connell
My rating: 4 of 5 stars

Mallory adopts a cat. Since the cat loves Mallory I can't believe she is as bad as the men in her life make her out to be.

Charles is investigating a boy, Justin, who seems to be making objects fly through the air, Step-Mother #3 is terrified of him and his own Mother and Step-Mother #2 meet suspicious ends, but Charles refuses to believe the boy could be behind everything. In an effort to find out what Mallory sees in the boy Charles lies to Edward Slope and discovers that Mallory barely escaped being the victim of a snuff film when she was a child. And that Riker beat one of the men in the film to death, the other had been killed by FBI agents.

Mallory on the other hand is investigating the murder of a woman, that was reported to be her on the news. In an effort to help Mallory Charles reconstructs the woman from her book.

Mallory's plans for the killer go awry when Justin steals her gun. When she realizes her gun is missing she calls Charles and demands he bring her another gun. While Charles is rushing to her side she manages to get a confession from Amanda's killer and well as a confession from Justin by playing them against each other. Charles arrives in time to save Mallory's life and contrary to what Mallory thinks if the gun had been loaded he would have killed Justin for her.

The cat survives the shooting and seems to have a permanent home with Mallory.

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Sep 17, 2018

Double Blind (Kendra Michaels, #6)

Double Blind (Kendra Michaels, #6)Double Blind by Iris Johansen
My rating: 4 of 5 stars

When a young woman is murdered on the way to Kendra's apartment with a wedding video Kendra is determined to find out why. Soon she is on the track of a serial killer who is being protected by a military contractor with deep pockets and lots of political clout. With the help of Lynch and Jessie, Kendra will plot to take them down, but before they can Olivia is kidnapped by the serial killer and they will have to race to save her.

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Turtle watch (A new view) by George Ancona

Turtle watch (A new view)Turtle watch by George Ancona
My rating: 4 of 5 stars

Great book to read to children. I read it to my granddaughter. Very informative.

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Sep 14, 2018

Dismantled by Jennifer McMahon (Goodreads Author)

DismantledDismantled by Jennifer McMahon
My rating: 4 of 5 stars

Four friends share a lake cabin after college Suz & Winnie, Henry & Tess. But something tragic happened and now with the mailing of a postcard to the survivors old memories are resurfacing and guilt is eating away the remaining members of the group.

Will the truth be uncovered or will it stay buried at the bottom of the lake. And is Winnie really as clueless about what is going on as she pretends.

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Sep 11, 2018

Before and we got the floor (April)

 The first step in our kitchen/entry way/ Dining Room remodel was the floors. First Bo had to get them clean. The laminate flooring was fairly easy to remove but the old vinyl that was probably what was put in when the house was built was a pain. Bo had to scrape it up.

 So cerement floors while we waited for the tile.

 The wall paper is also coming down and the light is getting replaced in the entry way.

 The border in the kitchen was also removed.

 And the wall paper in the Dining Room.

 I got to go pick out granite for the new counter tops. My choice was Volga Blue. Volga Blue Granite is a stunning stone that has earned its reputation as one of the most attractive stones on the market. It is quarried in limited quantities in Ukraine. It almost looks like an opal to me or Mother of Pearl. As you can see it has blue/green and even a tad of purple spots in it. And then there is the silver swirls with a touch of bronze hidden in it. There is a lot of color and movement in this granite.
 
 We had to take everything out of the cabinets. It's very hard to do a complete remodel when you are living in the house.




 The floors are getting prepped. A water proof barrier is being put down.

 The Tile is here.  The Tile is Tesoro Rox Series Color Dust

The Rox collection is the newest generation of digital ink jet technology tile.  The soft yet dramatic graphics give this series an authentic earthy look.
The Dust color is interesting as it is a mix of neutrals and seems to change color depending on the light.
This porcelain tile has similar characteristics found in a slab of honed granite. Large chunks of blue grey and pearly white are scattered throughout filled in with smaller swirls of speckled tan and cream. 
It's the same tile I have in the Master Bath.


 And the paint is here. I love Valspar's 2018 Colors of the Year. Glass Slippers for the Laundry Room, Emerald Ice for the Kitchen and top of the Dining Room and Flood Tide for the bottom of the Dining Room and Family Room (which is the next remodel and the one we are on now), Tempered Gray for the Entry Way and Urban Sunrise which I have to say I prefer it's name Frisky Whiskers at Ace Hardware and Kitty Whiskers at Independent Retailers to the name Lowe's stuck it with. Anyway the Urban Sunrise/Kitty Whiskers is the trim.

 The tile is getting laid.

 This is what the kitchen looks like without cabinets.

 The tile was laid by Moore's Floors.





 The is the Glass Slippers with the Urban Sunrise/Kitty Whiskers trim.


 I discovered my Note 5 was perfect for taking a picture and then scribbling on it.

There is going to be a wall for my microwave cabinet, then a pass through then a wall where the cook top is then another pass through.

Sorry I am so late with sharing the remodel. It looks beautiful and I can't wait for you to see it finished. ~Alasandra